Swiss Army Knife Moms by Ramon Presson


A friend & colleague of mine, Ramon Presson, posted this on our No Mommy’s Perfect Facebook Group.  I asked his permission to repost here for all to enjoy.   This is my first day in 3 weeks, including weekends, that I haven’t been counseling, traveling, speaking, researching, or feverishly writing, and I can tell that I don’t know how to relax this morning. Have been up since 5:30 and going at a steady clip. Sometimes I think I confuse the difference between unproductive and really relaxing or recharging. I’m not complaining. I love all the things I do. Just learning…

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Motherhood and Dogs


Have you ever just been so busy and lost in the details and pressures of motherhood that left your brain feeling like mush and your body like a scrambled egg?  For hours on end swarms of thoughts consume your mind at one time that you forget the simplest things like taking dinner out of the oven, or missing an appointment because you forgot to write it down or even just the luxury of eating or going to the bathroom. What mother hasn’t forgotten to set the alarm clock because she was so tired from staying up at night with her…

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Sometimes They Win…


Recently, our preschooler has been throwing some fits in the morning while getting ready for school.  Since there was school testing this past week, I simply could not endure another meltdown in the morning.  So, I gathered all those parenting advice columns I read and all the family therapy knowledge I acquired  in grad school and came up with a plan:  rather than going to school she’d spend the entire day in her room.  While her Dad worked downstairs, by the end of the day I just knew she’d definitely wish she was in preschool and my motherhood mantra would…

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4Ds; It’s Time for Spring Clean


By Susan Shifay Cheung                                     April rain, mowers cutting grass, and flowers and plants coming to bloom; it’s spring time and my windows are wide open. But, hold it… Argh! I see dust bunnies I can no longer ignore. Yup, that time is here; spring cleaning and I hate it! I have my sights on the untidy mountain of my children’s artwork—their masterpieces from school, sick days, holidays and play dates piled under the coffee table. I pause here, as my mommy brain battles with my rational brain. I have to keep the artwork, right? These are important expressions of my children’s…

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A New Definition of Motherhood…Are you In?


Recently I’ve been reading alot of research on motherhood for an upcoming book I’m co authoring.   In the midst of the studies the continued stress placed upon mothers is ever present.  No matter which road we go down, we are likely to step on the landmines of guilt, imperfection and even shame.   Recognizing the pitfalls in my own motherhood journey, the thought came to me that we need a new definition of motherhood.  Today’s ideals are largely based upon last generation’s dogma, methodolgy and culture.  Our mothers did not have children growing up with the internet.  They did…

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