Swiss Army Knife Moms by Ramon Presson


A friend & colleague of mine, Ramon Presson, posted this on our No Mommy’s Perfect Facebook Group.  I asked his permission to repost here for all to enjoy.   This is my first day in 3 weeks, including weekends, that I haven’t been counseling, traveling, speaking, researching, or feverishly writing, and I can tell that I don’t know how to relax this morning. Have been up since 5:30 and going at a steady clip. Sometimes I think I confuse the difference between unproductive and really relaxing or recharging. I’m not complaining. I love all the things I do. Just learning…

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Sometimes They Win…


Recently, our preschooler has been throwing some fits in the morning while getting ready for school.  Since there was school testing this past week, I simply could not endure another meltdown in the morning.  So, I gathered all those parenting advice columns I read and all the family therapy knowledge I acquired  in grad school and came up with a plan:  rather than going to school she’d spend the entire day in her room.  While her Dad worked downstairs, by the end of the day I just knew she’d definitely wish she was in preschool and my motherhood mantra would…

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4Ds; It’s Time for Spring Clean


By Susan Shifay Cheung                                     April rain, mowers cutting grass, and flowers and plants coming to bloom; it’s spring time and my windows are wide open. But, hold it… Argh! I see dust bunnies I can no longer ignore. Yup, that time is here; spring cleaning and I hate it! I have my sights on the untidy mountain of my children’s artwork—their masterpieces from school, sick days, holidays and play dates piled under the coffee table. I pause here, as my mommy brain battles with my rational brain. I have to keep the artwork, right? These are important expressions of my children’s…

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A New Definition of Motherhood…Are you In?


Recently I’ve been reading alot of research on motherhood for an upcoming book I’m co authoring.   In the midst of the studies the continued stress placed upon mothers is ever present.  No matter which road we go down, we are likely to step on the landmines of guilt, imperfection and even shame.   Recognizing the pitfalls in my own motherhood journey, the thought came to me that we need a new definition of motherhood.  Today’s ideals are largely based upon last generation’s dogma, methodolgy and culture.  Our mothers did not have children growing up with the internet.  They did…

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The Comfort of Monotony


Some call it boredom, others call it routine.   Those times when things seem to be running on auto pilot without any disruption or detraction.   Everything looks and feels the same.   We wake up, send off our families, do our work for the day, orchestrate the nightly routine and then go to bed.    Monotony.  Yet,  perhaps these are the best times of motherhood.  No outstanding physical injuries.  No trips to the ER.  No major life crisis.   Just good old fashioned every day happenings of family life.   A time to breathe easier and enjoy this calm…

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