One Therapist’s Must Do Recommendation For Summer


What a school year it has been!  Between sports, academics stress, testing and perhaps some rough patches with friendships, there is one thing this therapist is recommending: a relaxing and fun summer.  One filled with commitments that will bring only  joy and refreshment for your family. Every parent I have the privilege of chatting with shares the stresses that come with the school year.  And as a Mom, I can sympathize with its hurried schedule and extra commitments. In summers past, I have taken the initiative to sign up for camps, classes and other boredom busters for our family, only…

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Sometimes They Win…


Recently, our preschooler has been throwing some fits in the morning while getting ready for school.  Since there was school testing this past week, I simply could not endure another meltdown in the morning.  So, I gathered all those parenting advice columns I read and all the family therapy knowledge I acquired  in grad school and came up with a plan:  rather than going to school she’d spend the entire day in her room.  While her Dad worked downstairs, by the end of the day I just knew she’d definitely wish she was in preschool and my motherhood mantra would…

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Bullying: What Moms Need To Know


Bullying is something that touches the heart of almost every mother.  Recently, I asked my friend, colleague and bullying expert Kary Valdes, LCSW her thoughts on bullying. 1. Bullying has become a constant topic in the news over the past few years. As a child and adolescent therapist, what do you think moms need to know about bullying? I think that everyone needs to realize that Bullying is not going away. It has been around since the beginning of time and is part of human behavior. Bullying happens in all aspects of life, not just in schools. It happens in church, at the…

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Testing From The School of Motherhood


This week our school will be conducting the cumulative testing that takes place every year.  We’ve received notes of the importance of getting a good night’s sleep, a proper breakfast…and the biggie in our house…Don’t be late!   As a parent, I recognize the significance of an education.   And I am so indebted and humbled by the countless ways teachers every day utilize their unique gifts to help educate young minds.    It’s surely not my calling. Yet, as a mom, we encounter a different curriculum.  What if there were a yearly test for how my children demonstrate their…

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A New Definition of Motherhood…Are you In?


Recently I’ve been reading alot of research on motherhood for an upcoming book I’m co authoring.   In the midst of the studies the continued stress placed upon mothers is ever present.  No matter which road we go down, we are likely to step on the landmines of guilt, imperfection and even shame.   Recognizing the pitfalls in my own motherhood journey, the thought came to me that we need a new definition of motherhood.  Today’s ideals are largely based upon last generation’s dogma, methodolgy and culture.  Our mothers did not have children growing up with the internet.  They did…

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