Well, here’s a thought. What do you say when someone else corrects your child? “Thanks for sharing your parenting insights.” “Shut the h$*! up” It’s a legitimate question only because it’s bound to happen at least a few times in a parent’s life. At times it is totally appropriate especially if your child is wreaking havoc and needs…a bit of redirection. You may be glad, in fact, and hope that folks around actually think your child belongs to someone else. You may be tempted to walk the other direction and pretend not to know your child. No….I am being facetious. In all seriousness, this happened to me recently during a violin lesson when my child kept saying “Oh My God!” and her teacher corrected her for breaking one of the Ten Commandments-although he didn’t exactly explain it to her–he just told her not to say that. Our daughter was confused as to why this was an unacceptable comment. I suggested she say “Oh My Goodness” instead and later we discussed the issue. It is not the intent of this post to discuss Christian Theology but rather how to respond when someone corrects your kiddo–what if you don’t even agree with the person?
I choose to use the opportunity as a way of showing my child “how to play well with others in life’s big sandbox.”
So you are NEVER going to agree with everyone. Someone may offend your child and thus you. We are very protective momma bears and we get rather primitive in our defenses when others criticize our kids….so….Take a deep breath and TRY to realize that ….and I know this may feel like a big stretch but….International Peace starts at home…in our own little sandboxes. Listen and appreciate others’ differences in opinions , try saying (or at least thinking) “thanks for sharing”, make your own opinions, and move on. Fighting and getting defensive sets a bad example for our children and often causes us to miss valid points. Perhaps our kid IS being the bully at times (ouch), or not using her good manners, etc. If we put our defenses aside and really listen to others–we can accomplish a greater goal. We can use the moment to teach our kids that, although we don’t all agree….we can agree to disagree…and keep playing in the same sandbox, peacefully.
Happy Playtime:) comments